Ask me any question about relationships

[Soul Doctor]

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Next to our soul and our life, for me, relationship is the next most important thing in life.
So I find it relevant to discuss serious issues about relationships.
So ask your questions about relationships and I will try my very best to give you answers and options about problems involving relationships.
Parent to children.
Children to parent.
Parent to parent.
Children to children.
Love partners etc.

Ask your questions here.

[histrionic0311]

^^ wow, gi career gyud ni nimo doc dah.. hehehe

anyway, i have a question. why do siblings fight each other, like why does sibling rivalry exist??

[Soul Doctor]

^^ wow, gi career gyud ni nimo doc dah.. hehehe

anyway, i have a question. why do siblings fight each other, like why does sibling rivalry exist??

There are lot of issues in sibling rivalry.
It started with the parents.
Parents should not side anyone whenever there is a fight among siblings.
Especially we say:
"ayaw awaya na imong manghud kay bata pa na nimo".
Unya muingon dayon uban parents, "Sabta ra na siya".
This will result to more grudges and feeling of injustice among siblings.
And when they realize that there is no sense of justice in the family,
they will then take matters in their own hands.
That is why the start to fight.

Do not side anyone whenever they fight.
Make it a rule that if two kids fight, they will both be punished.
Encourage them to settle their problems peacefully.
Make them communicate.

Communication is one of they key in solving sibling rivalry.

[Soul Doctor]

^^ wow, gi career gyud ni nimo doc dah.. hehehe

anyway, i have a question. why do siblings fight each other, like why does sibling rivalry exist??

Another reason is competition for material things and attention.
Especially with kids whose parents are not always around to talk to them,
kids compete for their parents attention.
Naa jud ni sa Bible no!
Two sons compete for God's attention.
Abel and Cain.

And sometimes they compete for material things
(whenever parent made mistake of rewarding a child as motivation).
It is also in the Bible,
Two sons compete for their birthright.
Esau and Jacob, sons of Isaac.

[Soul Doctor]

But when kids below seven years old fight, its normal.
Young kids fight like puppies.
They need two hours a day of "fight" time.

So when my second (6-y-o) and third (3-y-o) child fights,
I just "time" them.
My wife would ask "ngano sige man na silag away?"
I'll just say to her: "its just normal, wala pa man gud nahurot ilang two hours "fight time".

[isaac95]

goood day bro!!!

my question is:

ngano naa may favoritism sa usa ka family?

example is: mas pinangga ang manghod kaysa maguwang... ang manghod maoy gihatagan sa butang while ang maguwang maoy tigsawo sa ginamit sa manghod.

[Soul Doctor]

goood day bro!!!

my question is:

ngano naa may favoritism sa usa ka family?

example is: mas pinangga ang manghod kaysa maguwang... ang manghod maoy gihatagan sa butang while ang maguwang maoy tigsawo sa ginamit sa manghod.

Sometimes its the face.
Its the prettier one that gets the attention.

Sometimes its the memory accompanied with the child.

Most first born is accompanied by bad memories.
Mostly these first born are unexpected pregnancies.

But it is not always the case.
In my case the eldest is the favorite child.
The rest of us are unexpected pregnancies,
so we are less loved than our eldest.

[Soul Doctor]

goood day bro!!!

my question is:

ngano naa may favoritism sa usa ka family?

example is: mas pinangga ang manghod kaysa maguwang... ang manghod maoy gihatagan sa butang while ang maguwang maoy tigsawo sa ginamit sa manghod.

But as we get older, a lot of things come into play.
There is competition.
Its the smarter ones who get the ATTENTION.
Sometimes its the funny one that gets their attention.
Sometimes it the hardworking child that gets their admiration.

Usually their favorite child is always the one who pleases them.
Kanang mohilot sa ilang tiil.
Kanang mokuha sa ilang uban.
Kanang modungan og kaon nila.
Kanang mo-amen dayon inig abot nila.
Kanang mohatag dayon sa tsenilas inig abot sa balay.
Mao ni sila ang usual nga maappreciate sa mga ginikanan.
As reward tagaan nila og kwarta or dugang attention.

[Soul Doctor]

goood day bro!!!

my question is:

ngano naa may favoritism sa usa ka family?

example is: mas pinangga ang manghod kaysa maguwang... ang manghod maoy gihatagan sa butang while ang maguwang maoy tigsawo sa ginamit sa manghod.

Plus ang younger child is more naturally appreciative than his older siblings.
Di ba kung bata ta malipay jud ta inig abot sa atong Papa ug Mama.
Pero kung dako na ta.
Dili na jud kaayo ta malipay inig abot sa papa ug mama.

Mao nga sila sad dili na kaayo sila malipay sa maguwang.
Kay mas malipay man sila magtan-aw sa excitement sa manghud sa ilang pag-abot.

[praz]

hi doc...my question is...

nganu naa man jud naay usa,or two ka members sa family naa juy di matagad...

unfair ug sakit baya...nganu man??